Say No to Yes People

31 Monday Jul 2017

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I was rereading my last post and thinking about the kind of people I have around me. Although I love them dearly, I noticed that there are some that will feed into my plight rather than snap me out of it and that is dangerous.

For example, you’ve had a bad day and you call your friend to moan. What then followed were exchanges of experiences and a reinforcement of how ‘right’ you are to feel crap. When you get off the call, do you feel better? Typically no and if you do, it’s likely to be temporary.

Sure, there are times that you just need to vent and get things off your chest but whoever you go to must be someone of sound reasoning and mind.

Say no to people who unfailingly reaffirm your shitty feelings, to people who are not able to gently correct you, to people who mollycoddle you into believing you’re always right, to people who agree with everything you say, to people who do not have a healthy positive outlook on life. Those people have a greater influence on your life than you know and faith comes by hearing, so the more you hear the wrong type of things, the more you believe in it, make sense?

To put it simply, in times of stress and frustration, do not go to the constantly stressed and frustrated.

P.s Have a great week ahead!

Protect Your Dreams

28 Friday Jul 2017

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Listen up: Be mindful of whom you share your dreams and goals with.

I get it.

When we have some exciting news about our lives we want to share it with the people close to us or even not so close to us.

My advice? Don’t. I cannot recall how many times I have spoken about something repeatedly that later on did not materialise. Granted, there are a host of reasons why that may be, but in my experience its best to keep goals and aspirations close to your chest.

Besides that, in telling the wrong people you may face ridicule, be made to feel crazy and encounter negativity concerning the vision that is quite specific to you. Your vision is not for everyone to get, it’s for you alone so don’t be disheartened when people don’t “get it”, they’re not supposed to.

You might even find yourself feeling the urge to explain and justify your dreams to them- Don’t you dare. Leave it alone. If they cannot support you in the right way which includes being constructive (not destructive), then leave it well alone and continue to nurture your goals in silence.

If you are to share it, be sure to do so with the right kind of people. Those that are accomplished, those that will push you and hold you accountable, those that will lift you up when you feel down, those that can steer you in the right direction, those that can be a part of the solution and not the problem…you get my point.

Now does this apply to every single thing in your life? No, but use sense and wisdom…

and protect your shit.

P.s This is not to be confused with ‘Speaking things into existence’. Ill be back to talk on this soon.

Don’t Sleep on Yourself

21 Friday Jul 2017

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I was looking through Instagram as you do and I came across the fabulous shoe designer Monika Chaing. After browsing through a few of her pictures, I was transported back to 2010 when I had aspirations of creating a shoe line that would represent all the different sides of me-I love shoes!

That same year I was at a club with Jon B (yes the Jon B) and he commented on how he loved my shoes and that his wife would love them too. A tiny piece of me died inside, talk about missed opportunity. The shoes I was wearing at the time were not my own design, there were a pair of Kurt Geiger shoes, but just imagine if they were? Ugh.

Thing is I had been working on the shoe line but was yet to have a product in my hand. I thought to myself if only I had a little bit more time I could have passed on my details and the rest would have been history.

Needless to say that over time I became weary and stopped trying.

Looking through Monika Chaing’s feed reminded me of that and all the other ideas (there have been many) that I had started, made progress on and then shortly gave up on. Where would they have been now if I persisted? What could I have created within the last 10 years if I had stuck through all the obstacles that I would have faced? I don’t even want to think about it, but I do know there’s a high chance I wouldn’t be sitting behind my work desk typing this.

What I hadn’t realised at the time was that dreams do not manifest overnight. They are like babies, they have to be nurtured and attended to constantly. Did you hear me? Constantly!

Now I’m not about to be all self-deprecating after all I have blogged for 3 years and that for me is an accomplishment!

Do something now that your future self will thank you for. It could be in any area of your life, great or small. Start and persist with it and remember Rome was not built in a day.

You owe it to yourself to live out your dreams to the fullest.

Everything Is Not For Sale

10 Monday Jul 2017

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One half of a popular couple declared that their relationship was officially over on Instagram this past weekend. Was it surprising? No.

In this social media age it’s so easy to want to overshare and even make a profit from doing so but at what cost?

I see many people brand and package themselves for monetary gain, and in other cases for attention or popularity. I don’t have a issue with it after all it’s your life, your prerogative, however the problem ensues when you begin to suffer greatly from it. When your well-being is the price to pay for your decisions then it’s time to rethink your choices.

To keep it short, the things you value should be protected and kept sacred. If you want it to last and have a fighting chance of thriving then limit the exposure that you have given it, even if it’s just for a time.

Relationships of any kind are hard work and definitely not a walk in park but more importantly should not be pawned off for the sole purpose of attracting business opportunities or monetary means. You must do what’s best for you and yours, spiritually, emotionally, mentally and physically, because when the lights go out, only you will have to deal with consequences.

So as you go about your daily activities this week, keep these things in mind:

Protect your relationships

Protect your mind

Protect your energy

Protect your space

Protect your heart

Protect your aspirations

Protect the things you hold precious so that they may live long and prosper.

Nurture them silently, seek counsel from those who have bore fruits that you want to have, from doers, from achievers, from wise people, and this will give you a better opportunity to do well in life.

When Things Go Wrong

05 Wednesday Jul 2017

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I think there is something about speaking of things you are going to do and it ultimately going tits-up right after.

It feels like every time I speak of something I am going to do publicly, it doesn’t happen. Is there some sort of wicked force that actively works against me in that moment? If there is they need to cut that shit out.

For example, I said I would do a daily diary and that didn’t materialise in the way that I wanted (Sorry 😦 ), yet I had every intention on doing so and even made the efforts towards making this a reality but it just didn’t happen.

On the flip side, there have been many occasions where what I speak of comes to pass. It’s usually in cases where I haven’t put much thought into things or did not direct ALL my energy towards it and BOOM! Manifestation. My point? Think it, work on it, let go of the outcome.

There is also another lesson here for me to learn in how I approach things going forward, don’t speak about what you’re going to do, ever, just do it. With all things, just do it.

So as the momentum for the 7 day diary has passed, we’re going to scrap that altogether and go with the flow. I am a firm believer in letting things be and not forcing the unnatural to happen because it just won’t. All it will cause is further frustration and the thing you want to get hot wheels and keep running from you.

When things go wrong, and you make a few attempts to fix the issue and it doesn’t work, do yourself a favour; let the chips fall where they may. Some things simply have to fall apart before they can come together again. It needs that space for whatever it is to breathe, evolve and settle, then and only then can true change take effect.

Take a deep breath and momentarily, let it be.

P.s Maybe I’ll revisit this 7 day diary…or not lol.

Day 4: FML

03 Monday Jul 2017

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I believe I said that I would go to the gym on Wednesday? Yeah, that didn’t happen. I ended up going for dessert with my neighbour. And yes the dessert was amazing! Waffles with Nutella spread all over and crushed Oreos, mmm yum, but erm no good for my body goals.

29 June 2017

Today was an utter disaster!

I had been planning and prepping for a work event for weeks. No stone was left unturned. I was pedantic, no, manic with every detail, but where did it all go wrong? Technology. Good ol’ technology! It did me so dirty today, I was livid. Every expletive you know of, was used. From the beginning of the event till the end, I spent it trying to connect Skype calls, carry out presentations, communicate with multiple people and take notes- epic fail. One thing I do not like is to look or be incompetent. I don’t even like the idea of it.

Sure, everyone was really understanding and I was even applauded at the end for all my efforts but that’s not the point! Where’s bloody Olivia Pope when you need her? The universe clearly had other plans. Murphy’s f**king law.

My mood was so bad that I almost cancelled my plans to meet a group of friends, which had been organised a month ago.

I raved and ranted to a gentleman friend, who ever so kindly came down to meet me at London Bridge for a quick drink before I had to meet my other friends. So sweet.

Needless to say my evening did get better thanks to him and a few others. For that, I am grateful.

I even got a gift from a good friend of mine from his trip to New Orleans, which is one of the places on my hit list to visit.

That’s all folks till hopefully, tomorrow :s

P.s That wasn’t a lot of writing but trust me, what I had written before was total crap, nothing made sense!

Quick Update

03 Monday Jul 2017

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Good Morning! And Happy New Week.

I hope this week brings you everything that you have worked for and more 🙂

I know you are giving me the side-eye right now because I said I was going to do a daily diary for one week and I failed miserably.

See what had happened was, day 4 was rough and although I did write, I didn’t want to just shove a sub par piece of writing on here, because in all honesty my head was all over the place. To top it off, I became super busy (no excuse I know). I decided to delay posting so that my thoughts could be clearer and succinct.

Forgive me? Pretty pleasseeeee

I’ll be back on here, later on this evening with day 4 titled ‘FML’. Catch you later xo

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~ Be Live It

Monthly Archives: July 2017

Say No to Yes People

Protect Your Dreams

Don’t Sleep on Yourself

Everything Is Not For Sale

When Things Go Wrong

Day 4: FML

Quick Update