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Quarantine-ning in Paris
In this new normal that the world is currently living in, something to remember as we connect more with ourselves, with others, and possibly blasts from the past is this:
Words deceive, patterns do not. Look alive (Also stay alive).
xo
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DO:
Xo
Posted in Experiences, Life, Thoughts in motion, Uncategorized
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Experiences, friendships, Journey, Let Go, lifestyle, Path, plan, Reality, relationships, trust
Recently I have felt like my interactions with those close to me have become a bit stale, and it seemed to have happened ever so rapidly.
We’re just not gelling like we used to, and with life evolving so quickly, our paths are diverging in a way that’s challenging and causing me to really reassess my relationships.
And so I made a decision to limit my engagement and take some time out to figure out what’s going on and in the meantime redirect my focus on other things.
It’s important to evaluate what’s going in your life from time to time, especially if it doesn’t feel right- The whole elevation requires separation bit.
Now I’m not sure if my game plan is to elevate, although as I think about it, I suppose it is. To mentally elevate.
Maybe you’re in similar place to me, having to figure things out and that’s okay. For your own self development, it is sometimes necessary.
There are a few things I’m doing more of in this period:
I don’t know how long I’ll be disengaged for, it could be a week, two weeks or a month, I’ll know once I feel different.
I’ll still be here though, on the blog that is.
Xo
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This is the life we spoke of. Don’t believe me?
How many times have you said I’m broke?
How many times have you said I hate my job?
How many times have you said My life is shit?
How many times have you said No one loves me?
How many times have you said I’ll never make it?
How many times have you said I don’t like my body?
How many times have you said I’m not good enough?
How many times have you said I don’t believe in myself?
How many times have you said I can’t do_________?
Still think you’re not living the life you spoke of?
Think of your words as your Sat Nav; the course of your life can only go where you tell it to.
Xo
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Development, Discipline, greatness, Motivation, Speaker, success, Work, writer
A blog post could take me a day or two, maybe more before I actually post it. I’ll fuss over the details like ‘does it make sense? Am I chatting shit? Will a reader relate? For flip sake I missed a word, this doesn’t flow…’ and the conversation continues. It’s annoying. Honestly.
But that’s the price of producing work you can be proud of.
Being great at anything isn’t an overnight job. It can take years. When I look back at my work from 10 years ago, I wonder how I ever made it through university. It was terrible. I almost never proof read anything. What the hell for? ‘You said 3000 words, take it and leave me alone’. And I’m not exaggerating, it was a total mess.
It took me looking at my work to really see the quality that I was producing and make changes. Doing so made me realise I missed words a lot, and that I could read a sentence 5 times and still not notice it’s not there. Oh, and that’s another thing, I HAVE to reread my writing out loud several times, even when I don’t feel like it, because what you see matters to me. It’s the difference between a good read and a read that barely makes sense. It can be tiresome, but do you want to be just okay? Or great at what you do?
It’s so easy to look at someone doing brilliantly and think they’ve got it like that. They don’t. What they do have is a commitment to their life and work continuously to do better, to beat themselves over and over and over again.
So don’t be blind sighted by the appearance of things as all great things are always worked for.
xo
16 Tuesday Jan 2018
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I have an iPhone and it feels like every few seconds it tells me ‘Storage almost full’. Seeing this message has become the absolute bane of my life. I then start the process of looking for things to delete in order to create space and what I usually find tends to surprise me. ‘How did this get there?, erm this is useless, I’d never use this again, I have no interest in that, ergh delete’ are the thoughts I have when doing this.
It’s amazing how quickly things take form and become staples in our lives without us even realising it.
It’s crucial that we declutter on a regular basis so that we can make room for the things we really want and need in our lives now. This could be physically in terms of our possessions or mentally in respect of the way we think that no longer serves us and has now unknowingly become a hindrance or the time we afford others, it could be anything. Unfortunately we don’t have a message that pops up to tell us when we’re reaching our capacity and need to offload, but there are other tell tale signs that we can use to our advantage.
Lighten your load by decluttering and make room for what you want.
Xo
22 Friday Dec 2017
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“Jamal!, what’s taking you so long?” Emmy came bounding through the front door irritated that she’d been waiting for what felt like hours in the car.
She stopped in her tracks as she took in the breadth of what was before her eyes. Chelle, butt naked on the floor and Jamal standing over her.
Jamal’s head snapped back to see his girlfriend staring at him in utter disbelief. “It’s not what it looks like” Jamal stuttered. Emmy didn’t respond. “Let’s go” she said calmly.
Not another word was said and they left.
Chelle had by this point sat upright with her knees close to her chest and her arms in a tight embrace around them. She was not going to move or make a sound. She wished the wooden flooring would open up and swallow her whole, but when has your deepest desire ever come true when you needed it the most.
She was still there, live in the flesh, watching the entire scene unfold before her eyes like a showreel except she was the lead character living out her worst moment.
Chelle wasn’t sure what would have been worse, the two words said or Emmy going into a rage and beating the absolute crap out of her. It’s like when you’ve done something bad and your parents sit you down and say “I’m disappointed”. Those two words have the power to shift worlds and make any person rethink their entire existence. You’d much rather they scold you, that way they can feel guilty in the end, but no, they won’t give you the power. That’s how this moment felt to Chelle.
She sat there with her back against the steel cold leg of the God forsaken island and sobbed. Her body shook with the memories of all the things that went wrong over the past three years. She cried for her short comings and failures. She wept for her loneliness.
Two beeps were heard from her phone. With a wet nose and hot tears streaming down her face, she crawled over to where it was, hoping it was a message from God saving her from her current plight. It wasn’t. The message read “Be out by Sunday”.
Murphy’s law was in full effect and Chelle could do nothing but wail herself to sleep.
The sunlight coming through a gap of the closed curtains woke Chelle up. She stirred but didn’t move a limb. It was two hours later before she moved her body and slowly gathered her bearings. It was at that moment that she realised the mahogany stained floor had been her pillow and bed for the night. As she began to wonder how she ended up there, the events from last night came flooding back. She considered laying back down but the discomfort and aches in her body influenced her otherwise.
With nothing left to give she walked towards her room. It seemed so foreign to her like she was seeing it for the first time and in some ways she was. She’d outgrown this space. This way of living and feeling hurt too much and she was spent.
Maybe this would be a great opportunity for change. She could have a do over and leave everything behind. She never did belong here, this was a poor attempt to live a life that she knew deep down wasn’t for her.
She picked up her laptop, typed in what she was looking for, done.
Taking only a few treasured items and passport, she left. Chelle would return home.
Xo
10 Sunday Dec 2017
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Can I scream? Am I allowed? I feel like I need to or rather I am going to.
This week has been, how do I put it nicely, challenging. I don’t know whether it is because I am turning 30 in exactly a week or there is something in the water but whatever it is, I need it to hurry up and go away.
In light of this pending new age, I thought it’d be good to do a list of the 20 things to know in your 20’s of what I have learnt, loved and lost.
As someone who is nearing the end of their 20’s you can only imagine the level of anxiety that I and many others like me are experiencing. By my culture and this societies standards, I needed to have been married, had a baby, bought a home, a thriving career and lots of money in the bank. Ha! Almost none of those have happened.
So here are the first five things I have learnt about my 20’s:
Growing into adulthood isn’t easy and as with anything there’ll be highs and lows, you just have to learn how to roll with it.
I’m smiling inside, I promise.
See you tomorrow!
XO
P.s I am accepting virtual gifts next week 🙂
21 Tuesday Nov 2017
Posted in Life, Motivation, Thoughts in motion, Uncategorized
Like Giggs infamous lyrics say ‘It will get bloody, it will get gory’, such is the premise of progression, success and greatness.
I had a ‘moment’ yesterday where I felt like the aspirations and plans I had for my life weren’t happening nor had they come to pass.
I silenced everything and connected with that feeling. I allowed whatever emotion that came to me to flow, which in this case was tears. And I’m not a crier or I should say I don’t like crying.
After talking and meditating, clarity came; things will get ugly before it becomes beautiful.
You ever look at something or someone and think this came together like magic? Well it wasn’t magic, unless magic is effort, hard work, smart work, patience, dedication, consistency, passion, failure, tears, sweat, perseverance, losing, ungratefulness, unappreciation, stress, doubt, producing rubbish, then I suppose it is, but nothing great ever just happens.
A house didn’t always look like a house
A car didn’t always look like a car
Serena Williams wasn’t always THE Serena Williams
Everything had a small beginning, a messy middle and a refined end…and then repeat.
The difference between those that succeed and those that don’t, is tenacity. Successful people do not give up, they grow through it .
So, the question is, do you want to be successful or nah? If so, then expect that sometimes there’ll be confusion, wins, self-doubt, high points, losses, success and so on, it’s part and parcel.
Don’t let the ugliness of it all deter you from believing and working towards better.
Xo
P.s I haven’t forgotten about the challenge, I did one of mine, did you?
13 Monday Nov 2017
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Accomplish, believe, challenge, Child Like, children, dreams, Goals, Learn, Let Go, lifestyle, Monday, New week, Resolutions, Speaker, success
Who taught you to stop believing?
Do you remember being a child and believing in the impossible? Nothing was off limits. I can recall countless times where whatever I thought of or believed in happened. I’m not going to share what some of them were, because I am certain someone will want to cart me off to the head doctor.
I spent so much of my childhood especially being the only child for almost 10 years (and at that point you’re still an only child because of the age gap), living in my imagination. I would conjure up stories, desires and situations which made my young life that much richer. Life, however, has other plans and slowly all the negative things get the better of us and we soon forget how to manifest and live more. But I want to get back there, living as a child does, with no doubts, little fear and great ambition.
I asked myself this question, ‘how do we not become bogged down with the negative things that have happened, to cause us to believe less?’ The answer I received is this, learn and let go.
Think about it, a lot of children when they hurt themselves or don’t succeed at doing something, they get right back up and do it again. A child learning to walk after falling down a few times doesn’t suddenly say ‘yeah this walking stuff isn’t for me’, they carry on trying until they get it. The recollection of how badly it went wrong the first time is but a distance memory to them; they learn and they move on.
One of the ways we can implement this ability is by following this principle by the good book, where it says but transformed by the renewing of your mind. One interpretation of this that you have to constantly, daily even, press reset.
With this in mind, I have decided to push myself beyond my self-inflicted limitations and I would love for you to join me.
Pick one thing that you have found to be a challenge to accomplish. It could be going to the gym 4 times a week, finishing off a proposal, having that business meeting, registering your company, making that dreaded phone call to a family member that you have not spoken to in years, buying a house, it could be absolutely anything. Decide that by the end of the week (19.11.17), you would have either done it or are one step closer to doing it. The one step does have has to be a huge step (no pressure 🙂 ).
My challenge has dragged on for many years, but I am determined to pull my finger out! I’ll definitely share mine next Monday, eek!
I’ll leave with this which I wholly believe in, it is always better to have tried something than to not have tried at all. You learn so much quicker when you do than when you don’t.
See you on the flipside!
Xo
