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Life On Your Terms

20 Thursday Sep 2018

Posted by Irene Ephraim in Love, Thoughts in motion

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belief, happiness, joy, life, living, London, Love, Marriage, Men, Motivation, Relationships, Self-care, value, Women

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I just feel like you NEED to see my face lol. Vain much? Maybe…

Good morning!

I really hope you’re doing well.

I wanted to drop a quick note and ask a question: are you living life on your own terms? To elaborate a little more, is the life you’re living yours by design or other peoples design? And really think about that answer.

Over the past few months, I have been steadily unlearning a lot of ideals and thoughts that have been ingrained in me through the various paradigms I operate in, to sift out one that is actually authentically me, and doing so has made me happier and freer. I am now consciously making my own mind up about things and the (self)inflicted pressure has significantly reduced.

I realised that when I strip away everything, I already have everything that is truly important to me like a roof over my head, my family is alive and very well, a means to earn money to sustain my life, a life that I am falling more in love with, and the list goes on…all because I decided to detach myself from what is supposed to be.

You can experience this new level of freedom which will empower you to actually do more of what you love by simply asking yourself, is this really me? And if you discover that it isn’t, work through that to find what is.

Everyone’s mission in life is different and to think we should all be doing and have the same things by a set time is utterly absurd.

I’ll give you an example and I use this one because there is a huge obsession with it in this society, love.

For as long as I can remember women have been conditioned to be reliant on a man for love and value, which is damaging on so many levels.

I am constantly asked by people I know and don’t know about having a partner, which for a long period made me feel a certain way. Almost as if my life could not be fulfilling if I didn’t have one and that this was the pinnacle for a woman. They often inferred and sometimes said ‘that there must be something wrong with me’. At a point I believed them and took a long hard look at myself and altered my behaviour so I could fit. Ha. It didn’t work.

The plan for me was never to fit in, but because of the words I kept hearing (which builds faith, faith comes by hearing), I believed them over myself and what I felt. Big mistake and it cost me.

Through detaching myself from this conditioning, I have been able to replace it with one that gives to myself over and over and over again. By me for me.

Now I’m not saying burn everything and move to a remote area and don’t want or need anyone, not at all, we need connections, they help us thrive, my suggestion is simply that when you make decisions about your life, make sure it is by you for you.

Xo

Is There A Better Time Than Now?

06 Wednesday May 2015

Posted by Irene Ephraim in Life, Motivation, Self-Development

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appreciate, enjoy, life, living, start, value

Is there a better time than now?

Have you ever looked back at a picture and thought ‘man things were good then’ or ‘It wasn’t even that bad’. I’m sure we all have, and pondered why we did not appreciate that period as much as we should have.

So many of us live for the future and end up missing out on the beauty of right now. We try  to schedule ‘living life’ the way we want to for another time, rather than enjoying the present moment and all it has to offer. 

We are either living in the past or living in hope of the future, whilst completely disregarding what it is immediately before us.

If there is something you want to do, do it now! and if it’s something that cannot occur immediately then prepare for it. Stop waiting on someone or something to happen before you begin to relish how good you have/had it. 

Stop thinking about what you want to do and start doing! Irrespective of how big or small it may be,make haste as tomorrow isn’t promised to anyone and any day lived is as good as it gets. 

I’ll leave you with a few quotes to ruminate over…

And in the end, it’s not the years in your life that count. It’s the life in your years- Abraham Lincoln 

I’m less interested in why we’re here. I’m wholly devoted to while we’re here-Erika Harris 

I don’t want to get to the end of my life and find out that I lived just the length of it. I want to have lived the width of it as well-Diane Ackerman

Yes I pinched them off the internet, but they are quotes that resonate with today’s message.

Carpe Diem!

Till tomorrow…

 

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Why Didn't You Warn Me?! is a podcast speaking on the things you should know, but don't. The things you typically find out after the fact, and it's sometimes too late. Fear not, Why Didn't You Warn Me?! with Irene aka Lipstick, will give you the 411 through story-telling, conversations, and refreshing perspectives.

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