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I Could, I Should, I Might?

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Posted by I.Ephraim in Experiences, Lessons Learnt, Life, More Action

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cc5a9b14-ac0b-48cd-87a3-7f751557ba9eI have been doing it so wrong for the past year and I knew better.

Isn’t that the worst? When you know better yet you’re not doing better and for whatever reason you can’t figure it out.

I have had a bunch of things that I wanted to achieve and acquire over the past couple of years which technically isn’t a problem. The distinction here is that I had no clarity on any of it. I would umm and ahh over everything, and I do mean everything.

I couldn’t decide if I was coming or going. Do I want to live in London or Manchester? Do I want to travel to a different country and work there or stay here? Do I want to buy a house or rent one? Do I want live in an apartment or a semi detached house? Do I want this type of job or to not work in this field at all? Do I want to be in a relationship or not? And this conversation continued in almost every area of my life. It stayed that way up until recently when I had a durh or as Oprah would say an ‘aha’ moment.

No wonder I had been stressed out and felt utterly unaccomplished, I had no idea what I truly wanted. I flip flopped out of fear of making a decision that would cost me. I didn’t want to unduly suffer again for a terrible choice I made, but guess what that meant? I didn’t do anything.

I had no clear sense of direction and therefore could not confidently take action towards anything, and that ultimately resulted in little to no result.

The lesson here is if you’re in a period of confusion and not knowing what way to go, just pick one. We spend a lot of time trying to avoid past mistakes but sometimes that leads to inaction and frustration, not to mention wasted energy.

The point of living is to live and that cannot happen if you’re second guessing everything. The only thing happening by doing that is building fear muscles and we certainly don’t want that.

Get clear on what you want and stick to it. It’s almost impossible to move forward without having an idea of what it is you want, how do you expect the universe to help you out when you keep giving her mixed signals?

Take a chance today and make a choice. Even if it doesn’t work out how you imagined, you still would have learned something you didn’t know before and that believe it or not is progression.

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Change Is Imminent, Change Is Constant, Change Is A Personal Decision.

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Have you ever tried to change someone? How well did it work out for you?

I’m sure we have all had that person or maybe been that person that has spent a great deal of energy complaining about someone’s action or inaction and wanting them to fix their ways. I know I’ve done so in the past, yet it changed absolutely nothing, if anything it aggravated the situation further and increased the level of frustration I endured every time I spoke about it.

The truth is this, you can only be responsible for yourself. I’ve mentioned this before, but I’ll say it again, it’s a difficult task in itself to change your life neither mind that of another being- Change is a personal decision.

The best thing you can do is to focus on your conduct and how you choose to respond in any situation, “how people treat you is their karma and how you react is yours”.

Now that I’m a bit more disciplined and experienced, if I don’t like it, I’m changing it and if I can’t change it then my attitude towards the subject changes, either way something will change!

I did a bit of a film binge watch over the weekend and I re-watched ‘Enough’ starring Jennifer Lopez . Here is a woman who was prepared to risk her life for her and her child to be free of her ‘monster’ of a husband. She was not willing to accept the hand that had been dealt to her and made the effort to change her circumstances. Now I’m not saying “accidentally” kill your husband, what I am saying is there is always another way to better, to more, if only you would just try.

It starts with understanding that you have the ability to change it and then making the effort towards that change. You can choose to be a victim or a victor, the choice is always yours.

P.S. How many times did I write the word ‘change’ ? :s

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