My three biggest takeaways so far for 2019 are patience, trust and humility. I have had to exercise these qualities in various amounts, sometimes all at the same time. It is testing, but growing.

Growing. I wonder if people understood what it meant, whether they’d still want to grow? We say it all the time, “I want to continuously grow and develop”, the reality of that is a lot different to those few words. It can be painful, especially if you resist the change.

If you are in that transition period, here are some things that can make the growing pains easier on you:

1. Resist the change. Forcing it to go your way is only going to cause you more strife. Relax.
2. Do not constantly repeat your problems to anyone within earshot. You only exacerbate the situation and deepen the attachment, which tends to be negative.

DO:

1. Do be proactive. Learn something new, invest in yourself. Standing still will only cause you ponder over what’s happening and if you’re an over thinker you’ll simply make it worse.
2. Let go of the shoulda, woulda, coulda’s, it’s regressive.
3. Go with the flow.
4. Keep going, however you know how. It will improve.
5. Exercise patience. Wanting it to be over and doing everything in your might to make it so, will not make it so. Can you plant a seed today and it bear fruit tomorrow?It has to take its natural course, whatever ‘it’ is.
6. For the love of God, learn the lesson (lol). This one was for me, but still, I thought it might be useful for you too.

Xo